Well, hmmmm. We have another reader looking for some specific advice. This one is a 25 year old fellow named S., who has never had a girlfriend, and has only mustered up the courage to ask women out a very few times, always with disappointing results. What's the trick, he wonders.
I used to write quite a lot about dating and my own theories about it. I wrote about how to decide whether to confess a crush, and how to tell whether you're undateable (in 3 parts!). I wrote about chemistry, and how much that matters. Since I've been with NBT these last three and a half years, I've stopped paying attention to all the signals you have to decode to figure out whether a romantic relationship is possible with someone, so I expect Megan will have better advice than me. But ignorance has never stopped me before, so I'll charge in.
There are three things that I used to ask myself when evaluating a guy. We'll take each of them in turn.
1) Do I like, enjoy, and admire him as a human being?
2) Do I want to smooch him? Is he attractive/exciting?
3) Does he make me feel good about myself?